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    Your Biggest Concern As A Parent

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    Your Biggest Concern As A Parent

    Post  Admin on Thu Dec 03, 2009 8:47 pm

    Don't be shy about letting us know if you have other concerns, or if you did but have overcome them.

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    Oh my goodness!

    Post  Bluemoon on Sat May 15, 2010 8:46 am

    Can I pick them all, lol?
    Actually, my BIGGEST concern is my most immeadiate one. That is getting the help we need to learn how to best manage my son's special needs.
    How well that works out will determine my next biggest concern.
    Right now, I do worry if I am up to the task and if he will have a happy future and be accepted by his peers in the future when they are older and less tolerant (and I am no longer always there to explain some things).

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    Re: Your Biggest Concern As A Parent

    Post  Admin on Sun May 16, 2010 2:31 am

    How old is your child bluemoon?

    Sometimes peer issues are most problematic in younger children. Its one thing to explain to a Principal or teacher why your child's behavior might not always fall within the norm, but getting young kids the same age as your child to get it can be another thing entirely.

    In a school environment, your child's peers perception of how your child is treated can also complicate acceptance. Y'know, a seven year old won't necessary understand why his classmate gets to behave in a way that would see them getting in trouble.

    If anything age can engender tolerance among peer groups. Sure, kids can be cruel, but they can also be pretty amazing. If you're lucky enough to know any of the parents in your child's peer group, if they are prepared to explain to their own kids what the situation is, a lot of them 'get it'. Kids in general are pretty amazing, and many will accept it once explained and move on, hopefully with your child in tow.

    My experiences of aspergers has been in children, but I have a friend who remains steadfastly loyal to one of her childhood friends who is an aspie. By all reports she was pretty diabolical at school, during a time when aspergers was understood a lot less. But you can't separate them.

    It just shows there's certainly room for hope, and don't be hard on yourself, you're making the effort to make sure you give your child the best experiences of life they can get. Kudos to you Smile

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    Re: Your Biggest Concern As A Parent

    Post  Bluemoon on Sun May 16, 2010 7:23 am

    Thank you for your kind words. E is 8 and in 3rd grade. Yes, the difference in the way the children are disciplined comes up even on my bus. The rest of the kids have asked "Why does E scream like that((most often when someone does something he percieves as unfair)? And why do you let him get away with it but if I did that I would be in trouble?"
    Fortunatly (I guess) they have caught on to enough differences between them in other ways that they are able to understand that E can't always help doing some of the things he does and if he is reacting out of distress, for me to "yell" at him for it will only make it worse. However, they CAN control their voices and if they choose to not do so then they WILL get reminded by me. The kids seem to get this, thank goodness.
    It's nice to hear that this is likely to get better, not worse, as he gets older. Also, I live in a very small community so the kids he is with when he is older will be the same ones we know now. In fact, little besides getting older will change. I will likely drive them to school all their lives and maybe even their kids one day too, lol.

    Btw: I do correct E for screaming, but not in the same way I would if one of the other children did it because if I did I would be likely to cause a full blown meltdown. Learned that one the hard way, lol.

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    Re: Your Biggest Concern As A Parent

    Post  blondie09631 on Wed Sep 08, 2010 4:27 pm

    My biggest concern is that my son (now 15) will not be able to transition to adulthood with typical responsibilities. I am also concerned that he is missing out on many life adventures that most children experience.

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    Re: Your Biggest Concern As A Parent

    Post  CrazyDad on Fri Oct 22, 2010 9:42 pm

    I want to tick all the boxes too.
    My situation is aa bit different from the ones I have read (so far) in this forum: My son Cory is 11 he has ADHD and Aspergers, I dont live with my son, I mostly live on the other side of the world in Norway. When Im back in Australia I try spend as much time as i can with him. I'm basically looking for information I can pass on to my Ex (Corys Mum), it must be very difficult for her, Cory can be quite a handfull at times.
    Cory is way smart, he often blows me away with some of the things he knows, and he isnt falling behind in class, although he has been suspended several times for being "in trouble".

    I want to tick all the boxes because all of them concern me... I kind of just wish there was some sort of Magic Wand i could just tap on his head three times and 'POOOF' my boy becomes normal Sad


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    Re: Your Biggest Concern As A Parent

    Post  Kell on Tue Dec 13, 2011 9:54 pm

    One of my children has a high IQ, but his social skills, school work and his behavior is a challenge. I have been praying to the Lord Jesus Christ and for his help. Then my husband narrowed his symptoms to Aspergers. Children with Asperger seem to have something in common. They have social skills problems and they also are lacking protein because of their digestive system. I came up with an protein shake that helps him have more control of his digestive system and because of that, he is getting the protein that he was lacking.

    This shake will change your child and your life for the better. Thank Jesus for this shake.

    Give it to your child EVERY morning( at least M-F). Let him/her drink 1/2 to all of it. You will see some changes every 9 weeks.

    You try it too. I recommend you to try it when you have a day off, because you will need to have a restroom close by and drink plenty of water during the day and eat it with a meal. You be the judge.
    I drink 1/4 of it and it sends me to the restroom in 5-10, but I now something is change in me for the better.

    I call it the:

    Saldivar-Keller Aspergers Shake:
    (works your stomach, your brain and many other parts of your body)

    3- small spoons of lentils cooked**
    2- organic eggs (white only)
    3-4 - strawberries
    few - blueberries
    Mix these ingredients in a Magic Bullet or one similar.

    Then add:
    1- banana (med or large)
    fill- it with crushed ice (or whole)
    some -milk for liquid
    Mix it again until it is all mixed.

    ** heat water, then add lentils 1/2 a bag. Simmer for 30 mins. Put it in a Tupperware for daily use.

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